I Dump You, You are Fat.

So apart from writing for Terfaktab, I also have a penchant for lurking at forums, namely love forums. I’ve been doing that ever since I’m in my student years (so I guess AlexiaAqram choosing me as a writer in Terfaktab was right after all—I got lot of ‘experience’ hahaha!)  So yesterday I went back to one of my favourite websites to check out new trending (ye, relationship pun ada trending ye kawan2). One of the older  topic was how to dump a guy.

“Please guys, how do I dump this guy because he’s overweight?” the title says.

ok..uh? .WHAT DID SHE SAY?

“...We chatted for a while and he seemed like a nice guy. He showed me a picture (face only), but he didn't look overweight in it. When I met him in person, he was too overweight for me and I was turned off.
How can I dump him without hurting his feelings? Should I tell him it was because he is overweight?”

(pic unrelated. Ada siapa tengok Cinta Buta hari tu?)

The answer board was closed, but there are a lot of answers in it. Surprisingly everybody was advising her nicely rather than “OMG YOU JERK WAIT TILL IT HAPPENS TO YOU ******!!” (nasib baik takde mentaliti Meleis dalam website ni. Hahaha). Even more suprising half of the answers actually have good suggestions on how to dump him too! So technically there are two groups of answerers—the supporters and the opposers (bukan POSER ok).

The opposers (pembangkang), said....

-"if he’s a nice guy at least try to be friends. He compensates his size by being nice. (maksudnya orang badan besar perangai lebih baik)"

-"its very shallow to dump a guy because of that. if you liked him before you saw him you shouldn't break up with he for his looks. he could be a very nice person."

-"this is a very shallow thing to do. Even if you make other reasons for breakup he will still suspect it is because of his weight."

-"You must have liked him for who he was until you saw him. I do not think that is fair. You may find a trim male but what will he have to offer you from his heart? (aww sweet)"

-"if you tell him you dump him cuz he’s he’s overweight, he’ll have an eating disorder and you’ll ruin his life."

No, I'm doing just fine.

-"You should never tell a person you don't like them cause of their weight. You need to see their attitude, how they treat you as a friend."

-"Would you want someone telling you something like that. Now listen to this: I knew a guy in high school who had a handsome face, but he was really heavy. He was crazy about me and I just liked him as a friend. A couple of years after high school, I saw him again and he was FINE...!"

padan muke. sekarang die dah ada awek cun you. (form izyan.com)

The supporters:

Ok, before you rage in the comment section, read the supporters first. They do have good ideas)

-"Just tell him that you think he's really nice but you'd rather just be friends."

-"just tell him you don’t think it would work out between you, if he asks if it’s because he’s over weight, you can even lie or be nice and think of a different reason."

-"First of all, invite him over to dinner and talk it over on dinner. You could say that he's too nice for you. That always works for me."--btw avatar awek ni agak cun. em?

-"tell him it is because you have relationship and people issues."

Any way it is, there are some supporters who think that it’s the guy’s fault for not being honest. I mean, he gave a pic on the internet that shows face only (I suspect a Myspace angle pic here), and it turns out he is way different than what he looks in real life. In other words, she was cheated!

How.Dare.You.Lie.To.Me.

For me, I support her on leaving. No, don't tell me I hate fat guys. My last two relationship consists of people with BMI 25 and above. But to me, you gotta have two things in relationship: confidence, and honesty. confidence to step out in the world and flirt no matter how you look, and honest about how you look like and not hiding it.

So what do you think? Write down here.