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Masa awal-awal kahwin dulu, aku berkesempatan menyertai kegiatan dakwah tablik. Dulu la, dulu. Kalau nak tahu tablik ni, selain daripada ketuk-ketuk pintu walaupun diorang tau korang tengah pura pura takde kat dalam, tablik juga ada 3 hari "bootcamp" untuk kaum-kaum wanita berkumpul dan belajar hadis, ibadat solat dan hafal surah-surah lazim. Dan dalam tiga hari "bootcamp" ni (maaf aku lupa namanya, kadang-kadang aku tergeliat lidah sikit sebut Bahasa Arab, kaum-kaum wanita akan terpisah dari suami / anak lelaki mereka, kecuali pada sesi pertemuan empat mata (ni pun aku lupa nama dia, tolong drop comment kalau korang tahu!). Dalam sesi ni, setiap lelaki akan masuk bilik/ruang kosong, dan borak dengan bini / mak mereka lebih kurang lima enam minit. Ada yang lebih ada yang kurang. Cuma yang pentingnya, kalau dipanggil engko kena masuk. Tak ada merajuk-rajuk. Dan dalam lima minit tu, kau KENA bercakap. Awal-awal dulu, aku tak biasa lalu aku tanya mereka yang lebih ...

"Hai, sorang ke?" "Sorang." "Kesian." "Apahal pula kesian?" "Yalah, tak bestnya..." senyum sinis si gadis. Lazim aku dengar perbualan sebegini sama ada di dunia sebenar atau di alam maya.  Kelihatan seseorang yang duduk berseorangan, samada makan tengahari, sedang minum kopi, mahupun membaca suratkhabar di tepi LRT, dan pantas minda masyarakat umum merasa empati kepada tuan punya badan. tentunya, bagi mereka, lonely is pain, being lonely feels like a loser . Or does it? Nyata sekali ini kesilapan biasa kaum ekstrovert melihat kepada kaum introvert. Biarpun dikata loser, dikeji lonely, atau disangka dipulaukan kawan-kawan, sebenarnya ada sebilangan manusia lebih selesa bersendiri. Selesa yang bagaimana tu? Selesa, seperti merasa tenang dan aman duduk berseorangan. Dan apabila berada dalam keramaian, rasa stress, rasa gundah, dan rasa seperti dalam kotak yang sukar untuk keluar darinya. Ada buku yang aku tidak ingat taju...

Assalamualaikum warohmatullah. One thing for sure, when it comes to love, none of us is an expert. Who doesn't suffer heartbreak ? Who doesn't change partners? Who doesn't taste being single ? We are all the same. We love, we break, we love again and we break again. That's normal. This cycle matures us, teaches us. So, we know the perks of being in a relationship. Courtesy of  google.com So, normally guys often forget small things. Small things that women take note, women care. Small things like, what does she like to wear, the kind of toilet she prefers, does she prefer bawal more than pashmina, does she prefer you to wear casual shirt or simple T-shirt, the date both of you first met, the date both of you first ate IKEA meatballs, the date both of you had first, second, third and fourteenth quarrel, and all the dates that both of you have been doing since day 1 and the list goes on and on. For most men, what's the big deal between pashmina or bawal. In hi...

*credits to google.com and Calvin and Hobbes' creator.   No matter you are or you are not (or already not) in a relationship, that does not mean you should not give a care about how to handle conflicts in relationship. If you’re single, you will face conflicts when you are in a relationship, either engaged or married. If you are, already in a relationship, right now, I bet you probably have dealt with countless of conflicts. Be it over where or what to eat to even serious conflict that threatens your relationship. The art of saving a relationship is how you deal wisely with conflict(s).                 Conflicts are inevitable. It is unavoidable. You don’t have to be in a relationship to have a conflict. You can also have conflict with yourself. Conflict is a problem, rather a state of uncertainties. You are undecided of what you want or what you really want and what you actually need. For exam...