Wiken Talk - "Why Arent There Any Nice Girls Around?"

So, #foreveralone guys (and friendzoned, and dumped guys alike) always complain that girls nowadays lack the “My Waifu” (soulmate) quality—all they see are girls who are too outgoing, bitchy, too flirty, too sexy, too materialistic, less religious, more rebellious, etc. etc.

I can’t blame this all on them, really—since most of them are speaking from experience, especially on the girls they’ve met on the Net, on forums, Twitter, Facebook, also in clubs, parks, malls, concerts, social events and stuff.The girls are usually attractive and approachable at first but as they got to know them—woah! All hell breaks loose.

“It’s the environment that we live in—it’s morally corrupted so much that girls are growing with a skewed sense of morality and they become horrible bitchy, emo, shallow machine that they are,” these men would say. So is it true—that good girls are no more?

Nah, I gotta tell you, they still exist. As a matter of fact, probably they are more of them than the ‘bitches’ you claim to have met. Personally I’ve met mild-mannered, well-adjusted girls; those shy, polite ones you’d expect only to find in romance novels and bishoujo manga.

But here’s the catch though—the nicest, nicest girl usually stays off the radar. You won’t find them hanging at the malls all day, they dilligently work a 9-5 job or study all day, and come home to cook and clean and read a book then go to sleep early. And sometimes they don’t even have Twitter and FB!

I swear—I had this friend, the most intelligent, polite single girl you’d ever met—and she doesn’t even have an FB, let alone twitter. She’s only contactable through her work email, and phone—and don’t use it that much either.

And there are a few more that I know, who lurk in social media—they have blog, tumblr and twitter and such—but they get drowned by other attention-whoring females who flood the media with their attractive pics and emotion-grabbing posts. What’s worse, they are around, but they go unnoticed due to their stand on anonymity (usually they don’t reveal themselves so much on the net).

So how do you find them? Well, open your eyes wider guys, and keep searching. Don’t just get attracted to the shiniest, brand-new toy in the box—dig deeper into the places you’d least expect—you know what I mean, right?

And when you’re outside walking around doing your daily life, keep your eyes peeled for them. They don’t stand out very much. They might be on the chair next to you ordering breakfast in your favorite joint, always next to you on the bus, always sitting on the same seat in the lecture halls…why, might even be the girl next door to you!

So when you think you won’t find the soulmate for yourself—don’t fret yet—she just haven’t met you yet. And there’s a lot of these girls out there, believe me; and they are single, just waiting for nice guys like you to sweep them off their feet. Just don’t stop hoping!