We Believe in Love, but in a Different View.
I was actually lying down on my bed, not knowing what to do, besides thinking
about love, love, and love – not implying that I am in a relationship or things
like that. I just feel the urge to write something, in which most of you could
probably relate.
I
noticed, living here on the other side of the world ( not really far, to be
exact, it’s just an immigration tap away like duhh ) people do not really think
about love / marriage as much as when I was back in Malaysia. Let’s just call
this people as workaholic / career-minded people. And this ‘mindset’ changed
me, it gave me a whole new perspective, I must say.
Some
might say it’s a matter of conservative or provocative thinking, but honestly
it’s beyond that. First of all, let me start off by putting this disclaimer – I
am not promoting which country has the best mentality, and this is just a
personal point of view. Plus, I am not stereotyping / overgeneralizing every
one of you because I know not all people behave the same way. I would have to
say there are both pros and cons. Let’s just look at the greener side, shall
we?
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Culture
shock is the term. That’s what people call it when you are not used to the
culture in the country that you live in. At first, I was quite impressed by how
these people could concentrate 100% on work, and do not even bother about not
getting married, or even be in a relationship. Because even for me myself, I
started to so-called ‘love’ someone when I was sixteen years old (though it’s a
puppy love).
Back
then; I used to prioritize my love life. I would go all out by the name of
love. I would sacrifice everything for a thing called love. It’s healthy –
because that’s a form of motivation, yes. But when you are hurt, then that’s
it. You will lose your energy-drive.
One thing good, I believe about being a career-minded
person, is that no matter how hard life gets your way. You will realize your
priority. And clearly, love is something, but it is not about everything.
I may not have the experience on how is it like being
questioned, “ when are you getting married?” And I thank God, for that.
Marriage is something big. It’s not something that I would want to mess up, so
why the rush?
Like hello, I am not playing wedding dash here.
*wink* J
Ulasan
This is my first time commenting here. Truthfully, your entry speaks to me in a sense that I can relate to your experience 100%.
I just got back from a European country, nearly 4 weeks ago. To be honest, I am still struggling with the idea of one has to prioritise love over career to seek their happiness.
Back in that particular European country, I was calmer and happier - as most of my colleagues there; are practically obsessed with work; and I shared that value with them.
Now, on the very first day of my orientation week in Malaysia; one of my superiors asked me - point blank - "Dah kahwin ke belum?". Then, it hit me. I'm going to have a tough time adapting back to the Malaysian ways, in terms of familial values.
*sorry for the rant. It has been super tough re-adapting myself to the Malaysian values. Thanks for the entry, by the way!
seriusly lame giler tak masuk sini komen..haha;p